When Your Ex Becomes An Ex, Their Family Needs To Become An Ex Too
Shine.Yahoo.com: I missed my almost mother-in-law’s birthday last week. You know how you get the feeling like there’s something about a particular date you should be remembering, like it has some sort of significance but you just can’t dial up exactly what it is in your memory? Turns out, that’s what it was. I was kicking myself all over my own rump for forgetting it.
Because she’s my ex-boyfriend’s mama, some folks might wonder what the big deal is. She’s just the woman responsible for birthing my used-to-be. That’s only partially true. For some reason, I have a personal habit of maintaining better relationships with the mothers of my boyfriends than I do with the actual guys.
Even though me and their sons weren’t able to make it last forever, me and their mamas stay in touch, talk on the phone, even hang out – much to the chagrin of the dudes who brought us together in the first place.
Depending on how close you were to your one-time man’s circle of loved ones, the crash and burned relationship could be like going through two, three, four breakups instead of just the one. I mean, you spend X number of years with a person, getting to know not only them and their quirks and irks, but meeting and bonding with their family, their friends, their fraternity brothers, their co-workers, even their doggone barber. You’re immersed into his life, which means developing connections with the people around him.
The only time I have ever stayed friends with anyone of my ex’s friends or family was my highschool girlfriend. I was really close to her family and a couple of her friends and even went into business with her brother in law. That ended on bad terms for several completely separate reasons. But I do not keep in touch with any of my ex’s parents or family anymore. It just doesn’t happen. It’s just too weird. I couldn’t do it.
Anyone out there disagree that it’s a BAD idea to stay in touch with friends or family of your ex’s?