Don’t Come Off As That Creepy Guy
I observed something interesting this past weekend while I was out at a bar with friends. We met a group of girls, through me initiating and eventually talking about this website. They loved it! Prior to this exchange, I pointed out the hottest one in the group to my friend as a “hey check her out”. Long story short let’s just say he had his sights on her, but I’m the one who’ll be meeting up with her again. I didn’t snake my buddy at all and he’s a really good dude, he just struck out with her and I didn’t after. So I decided that I would take an attempt at a more serious post trying to give some other guys out there a little advice. DON’T BE CREEPY!! How you ask? Here are a few ways to try to avoid being creepy, but yet still avoid the “friend zone”.
1. If you just met her, don’t be overly touchy.
But for the love of GOD touch her a little, but subtly. If the conversation is going well, lean in a little and touch her arm slightly. Stuff like that. She needs to know you are interested in her, but not going to take her out back and murder her. It’s a surprisingly subtle line… don’t cross it. If you suddenly see this face then you’ve crossed that line:
2. Respect her personal space – at first.
Nobody likes a close talker especially when you’ve just met the person. If you are in a loud bar or club, then you probably have to lean in at first when talking to her, but don’t just stay all up in her shit after you say something. Give her some space in between what you are saying.
3. For the love of Charlie Sheen, don’t stare at her!
Unless of course you’ve already started into a conversation with her. Then, you’d better be holding eye contact with her while you guys are talking and smile or you’ll come off as wimpy and not confident. If you aren’t confident in yourself, then you’re screwed. Don’t even bother talking to even a somewhat attractive woman. Stick with the even less confident ugly chicks.
4. And last but not least, DON’T BE UGLY!
Sorry ugly guys. Not much you can do to not come across as creepy. Sure every now and then some girl might find your huge hairy mole cute and actually NOT be creeped out that your nose hairs as waving at her. But for the most part, you are fucked. Sorry.